When My Mom Wore My Black Silk: The Dark Family War Behind the Aesthetic Rip-Off
In the uneventful weekend afternoon, Xiaomei lying on the sofa casually slide the short video on the phone. Suddenly, an extremely familiar smile blossomed on the screen - it was his mom! And what makes Xiao Mei's breath stop suddenly is that the video protagonist's legs on the pair of glossy glittering "black silk", clearly is her last week just quietly hidden in the depths of the closet of the new models! While the mom on the screen was gyrating happily to the upbeat music, the comments section was already flooded with sharp discussions: "Wow! Auntie is wearing this with too much abandon!" "I'd be scolded by my mom if I wore this!"
This is by no means a dramatic encounter for Xiao Mei alone. A short video of a daughter recording her mother-in-law trying on her "Diablo" stockings has received a staggering one million hits overnight. In front of the young blogger's camera, the daughters generally revealed a hard to hide their surprise and a hint of helplessness. It is puzzling: young people regard black silk as the shimmering light of daily freedom, why does the same stocking immediately become the trigger of family turmoil when it is put on by the mother?
The tug-of-war between tradition and modernity has become real within the family. In my mother's generation, "decency" was practically carved into the bone marrow. When Jen's mother wore her newly purchased fishtail dress to a neighborhood event, the aunts remarked to her face, "You're so fashionable, aren't you afraid of being laughed at?" At the other end of the spectrum, young people are raising the banner of "I decide what I wear". Junior student Xiaoxue bought a pair of jeans shorts with holes to show her personality, but her mother triggered a strong backlash: "What's it like to go out dressed like this? I am embarrassed to recognize you!" Daughter's heart is equally aggrieved: "I think it's cool, the holes are design ah!"
But conceptual barriers are not iron walls that cannot be crossed. More and more moms are taking on the challenge of finding their own fashion path. For example, Auntie Li, 57, skillfully combines an elegant silk cheongsam with dynamic street dance elements. She laughs, "Cheongsam is my root and dancing is my life." The video she created not only received hundreds of thousands of likes from young people, but was also praised in the comments section as "walking precisely between elegance and exuberance". 55-year-old Wang also broke through stereotypes by confidently displaying her perfect muscular lines in the gym, with a message that spoke directly to people's hearts: "It's not our age that makes us timid, it's timidity that makes us old. It's the timidity that makes us old."
Every mom who loves to look beautiful once had a youthful, invincible look. Daughters often treasure moments in their memories when their mothers smiled in brightly colored dresses in old, faded photographs, or when their mothers quietly compared their daughters' newly purchased clothes after they fell asleep. Unfortunately, after becoming a "mother," the glow of "womanhood" is often hidden under family responsibilities, the ego is folded up and stored away, and the desire for aesthetic expression is quietly buried.
When the younger generation complains that their parents don't understand their own choice of fashionable dress, please don't forget - when you show an uncontrollable smile when your mother tries on trendy items, and keep your mouths imploringly shut after your elders try on fresh cell phone filters for selfies, you are actually scrutinizing them with a different kind of gaze: "At such an old age, you are still This way ......" that unconsciously exudes a scowl that equally signals our attempts to control, judge and limit.
So, when we accidentally witnessed the "black silk" moment in the mother-in-law's jitterbug, when the traditional solemnity of her even in front of the camera to flaunt - instead of floating in the bottom of the heart of the dissimilarity or quickly screenshot forwarded to the group of girlfriends, it is better to bravely and sincerely send "You look good in it" is such a sincere and powerful encouragement. That pair of seemingly tiny socks may be a precious robe that has been delayed for decades before it is finally accepted; those wishes and desires that have been put on hold have now been gently ignited.
Aesthetic hegemony should not be automatically labeled with an asterisk of exemption at a certain age. While we strive for the right to dress ourselves, we should not forget to give silent but sincere encouragement to the mature and confident figures around us. Every generation of women has the freedom to interpret the code of beauty.
That black stocking that you had lying around might be a late battle dress in the life of a mother-in-law.
