Behind the screen of black silk men, who is defining the "head down"? Should you be cyber-raped for wearing stockings?
This summer, the war of words over "black silk men with lower heads" has exposed a larger social rift.
Office air conditioning cold wind blowing straight, you just clicked on the phone to brush the little red book, a video suddenly popped up: the picture of a chubby boy wearing pure black stockings, with baggy shorts to the camera than a yeah, the text reads "wearing stockings is really comfortable".
What was your first reaction? A frown? Suck in a cold breath? Nearly throw your phone away in embarrassment? Or quickly scratch it away or even report it backhandedly? --When you subconsciously react in this way, this huge controversy about the "black silk under the head of the man" has already successfully engulfed you.
This weird conflict is tearing up our social media platforms at an exponential rate: on one side, male beauty bloggers are wearing black silk to show off their legs, and thousands of comments are pouring in, "Respect women, okay?" "Don't come out to disgust people". On the other hand, more male vegetarians are trying to wear black silk, and the harvest is "wanting to be red crazy", "dead straight men playing what cute", "eye pain, begging to quit the network! "Mockery.
It's obviously just a thin layer of black silk fabric, but it's like a prism that refracts light and strange human nature--
Why do men get called out on the hot seat when they wear stockings? Who is qualified to define what a "downer" is? When we say "that's hot," what are we really disgusted by?
01. The storm of ugly orgy that triggered the Internet
Like a red-hot branding iron, the words "black silk freedom" have made an alarming dent in men's taut fashion boundaries this summer. This bizarre trend began with a handful of bloggers almost "sacrificial" behavioral art: wearing black silk over the head to play guitar, wrapped in black silk in the gym hard pulling, topped with black silk as a hat to shoot the daily wear ......
Some people claim to be breaking down gender stereotypes by calling it "aesthetic diversity", while many others feel strongly uncomfortable and label it as "aesthetic diversity"."the man with the head down"..."The title rushed to the hot search. The focus of the controversy is highly uniform:Men wearing black silk, is it free expression, or an offense to women?
When a male fitness blogger pulled black silk to the root of his thighs to do squats, the viewing volume soared to 8 million at the same time, the comment section instantly exploded: "The gym is not your stage, thank you," "Spare my eyes," "greasy man back Back back back!" A university boy on campus stocking photo was hung on the confession wall, less than half an hour message area was "recommended to see a psychiatrist" scolding massacre version; even vegetable market uncle to keep warm to wear black silk cotton socks, were passers-by secretly photographed on the Internet flirting with the "!The next head to the price of vegetables".
The controversy heated up the more it was called out, and a flood of new and unique content came out:The tutorial "Men's Guide to Matching Black Silk" has over a million views, and the topic "Men's Brand Black Silk Review" has over 100 million views.This trend is like a virus that spreads through the crowd, wrapped in curiosity and anger. This trend is wrapped in curiosity and anger, like a virus spreading wildly in the crowd.
The most paradoxical rift occurs at the watershed of gender perceptions: the young women's community is split between the "understanding" and the "extermination" camps.
Under the topic of a short video "My boyfriend tried on my black silk","My boyfriend's legs are straight and thin, and he's wearing it with a high class look."The compliments and"Scared out of my breasts by a guy in black silk."The angry rebuke crazy tear each other. And some men began to take sides actively or passively - a male college student recorded "Brothers, black silk is really cool! Breathable and cover leg hair!" Popularization video triggered a wave of imitation; but there are also more boys in the forum anonymously posted: "I secretly try on for fear of being said perverted quickly burned""Want to try but afraid of being hit up and down head male labeling social sex dead"
This black stocking seems to possess magic: it can make an ordinary person gain millions of fans overnight, or turn a comment section into a bloody battlefield in seconds.
02. A social complicity in labeled violence
When "man + black silk" has become a traffic code, behind the controversy, it is actually a social script in which collective emotions are looking for a scapegoat. The public's judgmental criteria for "lower head" has exposed deeper cultural anxiety and group tearing:
Cognitive inertia under labeling violence: When we open our mouths and shut our mouths about "men with lower heads", we have unconsciously completed a rough value judgment:
- Wearing black silk and not shaving your legs? = unhygienic.
- Black silk with slippers? = Sloppy and disgusting.
- Showing off your stockinged legs in front of the camera? = Claptrap.
A wear blogger seriously share a micro-fat figure how to choose pressure black silk dry goods post was labeled "playing the ball" after the report shelves. Labeling is like a branding iron, burning not only personal dignity, but alsoDeprived the public of the ability to rationally explore the patience of public issues.
The invisible noose of aesthetic hegemony: Men's attire is strictly divided into two camps: "normal" and "forbidden". Wearing athletic socks is a reasonable demand, but changing into thin black silk is labeled as "perverted". On social media, a trendy man was scolded for wearing black silk fishing net to shoot a magazine photo, "sissy and disgraced men", exposing exactly theThe ideological discipline behind the gender dress code is almost violent..
When a young father shares a video of his daughter painting her nails and wearing stockings for him on his parent-child account, the comments section is flooded with accusations of "teaching children to be bad" and "calling the police to report a pedophile". Behind these malicious comments is a new type of aesthetic hegemony that arises from hyper-vigilance against gender transgressive behavior.
Crisis of confidence in public space: When "hot eyes" becomes a legitimate reason for collective emotional outbursts, the online plaza becomes a large-scale moral witch hunt. A male beauty reviewer was accused of "masturbating to women's items" when he purchased black silk for an experiment, not realizing that the brand already had a men's product line. This kind of public opinion forum isDestroying any space for social experimentation that tries to break stereotypes.. And a society that does not tolerate pluralistic expression is by nature a desert of trust where everyone is at risk.
03. When Black Silk Becomes a Contemporary Totem of Identity
What this absurd orgy maps out is the deep dilemma of contemporary people's identity anxiety and self-identification:
Performance Fatigue in Circle Barriers: Social media has intensified the demographic divide, with the "niche" eager to be seen and the "mainstream" wary of being offended. Black men's outlandish performances are like a cannonball through the barriers of the hierarchy-When they hit their aesthetic comfort zone, they explode into abuse; when they fall into their curiosity zone, they become Internet celebrities.A boy who tried gothic style black silk laughed at himself. A boy who tried gothic style black silk laughed at himself: "Shivering was scolded to depression, but turned to Twitter to harvest thousands of rainbow farts." Identity performances have become a zero-sum game in the flow of hostage, and no one is the winner.
The illusory boundaries of gender labeling: Stockings were once an element of aristocratic male finery, and only after the Industrial Revolution did they become exclusively female. History proves thatThe so-called gender dress is essentially a consumer trap constructed by capital.. Scandinavian research shows that the unisex clothing market is growing at an annual rate of more than 20%, and 45% of the fans of male beauty bloggers are women. However, after a famous FMCG brand launched a genderless black stocking promotional photo, the official website still flooded with a large number of "pandering to men's and women's rights" one-star bad reviews. The tug-of-war between old and new ideologies goes far beyond attitudes toward a piece of clothing.
The Ritual of the Search for Existential Meaning: The nature of wearing black silk is no different from a middle-aged man plating walnuts or a second-generation girl wearing cat ears, theThey are all looking for an outlet to fight against life's burnout.The programmers in Beijing are looking for an outlet to combat burnout. When Xiao Lin, a Beijing programmer, put on his girlfriend's stockings at 2 a.m. in his rented house to take a selfie of himself saying "Be brave and be yourself today," and received 12 likes, but left his job when he was recognized by an acquaintance, the thin layer of silk fabric had already borne weights that far exceeded its physical attributes. It is both a banner of rebellion and a refuge of vulnerability.
04. Paths to Reconciliation in the Tear
When topics such as "Do men wear black silk to get off their heads?" ignite emotional confrontation across the internet, we need to look for the possibility of reconciliation in the midst of the tearing:
Learn humility in the world of others: The man in the vegetable market who was ravaged by the Internet and had his number canceled probably didn't understand what "gender deconstruction" meant, but only knew that wearing stockings in winter and wrapping his legs was really lighter than cotton wool pants. When we want to be labeled as "inferior", we should imagine those who are not.Involuntarily under the cameraThe faces - the construction site big brother who wears suspenders alone late at night, the uncle who is middle-aged and fat and still wears tight pants, the retired professor with dyed pink hair... True respect comes from a basic capacity for acceptance of difference.
Constructing evaluation coordinates outside of labels: It is not up to the costume to determine whether it is a "downer" or not:
- Is it a genuine preference rather than a malicious hype?
- Does it take into account public order and morals and is it appropriate for the occasion?
- Is there basic dress code etiquette?
A fashion designer put it well: "I've designed wedding dresses with sneakers for shows, but as long as the dress is clean and decent and respects the audience.No one has the right to laugh at the way others are happy.."
Leave a security buffer for those who cross the border: When a 22-year-old boy trembles to buy black silk for the first time and is afraid to return it; when a 48-year-old executive secretly searches for "men's stockings" and panics to clear his browsing history - we might want to reflect on this!How many repressed desires are behind those hidden search terms?. True civilization is not the elimination of dissent, but the preservation of space for those who test the boundaries to grow without being humiliated.
When a stocking is taken out of the gender label and put back into a common fabric.
The right to define "down" really belongs to every free soul.
Early in the morning subway glass reflection: office workers under the suit pants through a vague stocking shine no one looked, shopping mall fitting room teenagers wearing sequined black silk selfie in the mirror no one to report, square dancing uncle's black bottomed socks and sneakers naturally - these scenes may be a long time to go, but the real horror is not the visual impact itself, but the habitual in the name of "head down" to erase the violence of difference thinking. But the real horror is not the visual impact itself, but the violence of thinking that habitually erases differences in the name of "downward mobility".
The people who say, "If you wear black, you deserve to be cyberbombed," are building the cage with their own hands--
Only this time, no one can be sure that he or she will be the next to be locked up.
